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Your Horse is Reading Your Mind: How Your Thoughts Shape Your Relationship

Writer: Amanda HeldAmanda Held


The Mind Shapes Reality


Have you ever noticed how your horse seems to ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚? On days when youโ€™re calm and confident, your horse responds with softness and willingness. But when youโ€™re stressed, frustrated, or uncertain, they suddenly become tense, resistant, or unpredictable. This isnโ€™t just a coincidenceโ€”itโ€™s a ๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป.


In this blog, we explore the ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐˜„ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐— ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ and the ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐˜„ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—”๐˜€๐˜€๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป, two powerful principles rooted in Hermetic philosophy, neuroscience, and equine behavior research. These laws remind us that ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€, ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐˜€, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ-๐—ต๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ. When we shift from force to energetic leadership, we create an ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ, ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ instead of one based on control.


Your Mind Creates Your Reality (For You and Your Horse!)


The ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐˜„ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐— ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ, one of the Seven Hermetic Principles, states that everything begins in the mindโ€”๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†. This concept is echoed in modern neuroscience, which shows that our brain is wired to reinforce what we already believe.


According to ๐——๐—ฟ. ๐—๐—ผ๐—ฒ ๐——๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜‡๐—ฎ, a neuroscientist and author of Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, when we ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—น๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€, ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น. If you believe your horse is difficult or resistant, your body language, tone, and energy will subtly reinforce that assumption, and ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐—น๐˜†.


But the exciting part? The brain is ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ช๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™–๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™˜, meaning ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐˜€. This means that if you ๐™–๐™จ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ข๐™š ๐™– ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™š, your brain will start adapting to that belief, and ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™๐™ค๐™ง๐™จ๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™—๐™š๐™œ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ง๐™š๐™›๐™ก๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ง๐™œ๐™ฎ ๐™—๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช.


The Power of Assumption: What You Expect, You Create


The ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐˜„ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—”๐˜€๐˜€๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป, popularized by ๐—ก๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ, states that when you ๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ in a certain outcome,๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† to align with that expectation. This means that if you assume ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, your ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐˜† will shift in a way that๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ฟ.


This is not just philosophyโ€”itโ€™s ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐˜† ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—พ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐˜€๐˜†๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐˜†. According to research published in ๐˜ผ๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™ž๐™š๐™™ ๐˜ผ๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ข๐™–๐™ก ๐˜ฝ๐™š๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™Ž๐™˜๐™ž๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š, horses are highly sensitive to human emotions and subconscious cues. Studies show that ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜‚๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ต ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ต๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜€, reacting differently to calm vs. tense handlers.


Consider these two scenarios:

  • If you approach your horse ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ, your body tenses, your voice tightens, and your cues become sharp or impatient. Your horse ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ and responds with caution or avoidance.


  • If you approach your horse with ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ, ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜, your body language relaxes, your cues become clearer, and your ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†โ€”making them more likely to engage with you.


The key is to ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜ that supports the relationship you want to build.


But what happens when a horse has a history of trauma?

Many well-meaning owners keep their horse stuck in its past wounds by ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฎโ€”both in their words and in their energy. If you consistently treat your horse like a fragile, broken being, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜‚๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฒ, because thatโ€™s the energy you are reinforcing. ๐—›๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐˜€ the way humans do, but ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜† we hold about them.


This isnโ€™t about ignoring past hardshipsโ€”itโ€™s about ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„ ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ for your horse to step into. Instead of assuming your horse is still fearful, anxious, or reactive, begin to walk, talk, and interact with them as if they are already on the path to wholeness. This doesn't mean forcing them beyond their limits but ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐—ฒ.


If you expect a confident, trusting, and capable horse, you will ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜„๐˜๐—ต rather than reinforcing fear. The more you align your energy with who your horse is becoming instead of who they were, the๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น and step into that reality.


Horses donโ€™t just need physical rehabilitation after traumaโ€”they need ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ that believes in their potential to heal. What you assume about your horse becomes the space they grow intoโ€”make sure youโ€™re creating one filled with trust, confidence, and a future ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜.


How to Shift from Force to Flow


Many traditional training methods rely on dominance and control, assuming that the horse must be "put in their place" to comply. But horses are social, energetic beings who ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜†, not fear. Instead of forcing behavior, we can guide them through ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ, a concept also emphasized in natural horsemanship methods like those taught by Mark Rashid and Warwick Schiller.


3 Ways to Shift Your Energy for a Stronger Connection


1. Regulate Your Emotions Before Interacting with Your Horse

According to ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ฎ๐™ซ๐™–๐™œ๐™–๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฎ, developed by ๐——๐—ฟ. ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ฃ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€, mammals (including horses) co-regulate their nervous systems based on their ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜. If you enter the barn carrying stress, your horse will detect this and shift into a defensive state.


Try This:

Before stepping into the barn or arena, take a moment to check in with yourself:

  • Are you carrying stress from work or life?

  • Are you feeling frustrated, rushed, or impatient?

  • Are you open and present, or distracted and tense?


A simple breathwork technique to reset your nervous system:

  • Inhale for four counts, hold for four counts, exhale for six counts.

  • Repeat three times before approaching your horse.


๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€: This engages the ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜†๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ nervous system, signaling to your horse that you are ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜โ€”leading them to respond in kind.


2. Set an Intention for Your Session

Rather than approaching your horse with a rigid agenda, set a ๐—ฐ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ, ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป that aligns your energy with your goal.


Instead of saying, โ€œI need my horse to listen today,โ€ try:

  • "Today, my goal is to build trust and softness with my horse."

  • "I am approaching this session with patience and presence."

  • "I assume that my horse and I are already in harmony, and I will act from that place."


Supporting Research:

According to a study published in ๐™…๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™‘๐™š๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐˜ฝ๐™š๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ง, positive reinforcement-based training (which incorporates expectation and intention) leads to ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป from horses than traditional punishment-based methods.


3. Use Visualization to Create the Connection You Want

Elite equestrians like ๐—ช๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—บ ๐—™๐—ผ๐˜…-๐—ฃ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜ rely on ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜‡๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป techniques to mentally rehearse their rides before even mounting their horse. As an Olympic eventer and ๐™ข๐™ช๐™ก๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™›๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง-๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ง ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ง, Fox-Pitt has emphasized the importance of ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด for cross-country courses. Before even walking the course, he ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ each jump, feeling his horseโ€™s responses, adjusting his position, and planning his ride in real-time. This technique is powerful because the ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜‚๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ต ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ฎ ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—น๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†, making mental rehearsal just as valuable as physical practice.


Try This Exercise:

  • Find a quiet space before working with your horse.

  • Close your eyes and picture the ideal connectionโ€”what does it feel like

  • Imagine your horse moving with you in harmony, responding softly to your cues.

  • Feel the emotions of confidence, joy, and connection.

  • Hold onto that feeling and carry it into your session.


Why It Works:

A 2014 study in ๐™๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™š๐™ง๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ƒ๐™ช๐™ข๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™‰๐™š๐™ช๐™ง๐™ค๐™จ๐™˜๐™ž๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š found that athletes who practiced mental imagery ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ as those physically performing the actionโ€”improving coordination and response times. This applies just as much to riding and groundwork!


How Iโ€™ve Used These Laws in My Own Journey


For the past 20 years, Iโ€™ve applied these very principles to every aspect of my work with horsesโ€”from training in dressage to gentling wild mustangs and even rehabilitating mental and emotionally challenged horses.


Early in my career, I saw firsthand how my ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜, ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐˜†, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—น๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ. When I approached a mustang with doubt or fear, they sensed it instantly, mirroring my hesitation with their own distrust. But when I shifted into a state of ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—บ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜, their reactions changedโ€”doors to communication and connection opened in ways that ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ. In dressage, Iโ€™ve used visualization techniques to refine movements before even stepping into the saddle, ensuring both my mind and body are aligned before asking the horse for precision. And in rehabilitation, Iโ€™ve witnessed horses labeled as โ€œdangerousโ€ or โ€œuntrainableโ€ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜† ๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ when given the space to feel safe, understood, and energetically supported.


These experiences have proven to me time and again that ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—น๐˜† ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†โ€”not just for ourselves, but for our horses as well.


Final Thoughts: Your Horse is Your Reflection


Your horse is ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐—น๐˜† ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด the energy you bring. When you show up with trust, patience, and presence, your horse will begin to reflect that back to you. The more you embrace the idea that ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ, the more profound your bond will become.


Try This Today:


Before your next session, ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜€๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป:


  • โ€œMy horse is connected with me, and we move together effortlessly.โ€

  • โ€œWe are already in harmony, and I lead with calm confidence.โ€


See what shifts in your horseโ€™s responseโ€”and most importantly, in your own energy.


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Supporting Research


Dispenza, J. (2012). Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One. Hay House.

  • Explores how thoughts and emotions shape reality, supporting the Law of Mentalism in equestrian training.


Fox-Pitt, W. (2014). What Will Be: The Autobiography. Orion Publishing.

  • Details William Fox-Pittโ€™s use of mental imagery and visualization in eventing competitions.


Frontiers in Psychology (2019). Mental Imagery and Athletic Performance: How Visualization Enhances Motor Skills.

  • A study demonstrating how elite athletes, including equestrians, improve reaction time and coordination through visualization techniques.

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