Why Connection, Not Isolation, Creates the Safest Learning Environment for Horses

By Amanda Held | Equine Wisdom Institute

Every horse moves through distinct seasons of life. There is the season of becoming, when a young horse is developing their sense of self and learning how the world works. And there is the season of healing, when a horse who has experienced stress, instability, or past hardship is rebuilding trust in their environment and in the humans who guide them.

These seasons require the highest degree of emotional intelligence and sensitivity from us. They are the windows when the nervous system is most impressionable, most vulnerable, and most in need of support. And during these times, one principle becomes fundamental:

Horses in their formative years, and horses in a season of emotional repair, should not be trained in isolation.

Not because they are fragile, but because their biology relies on connection. Not because they need to be protected from learning, but because they need the right conditions for learning to become safe, meaningful, and lasting. And not because training alone is harsh, but because training with the herd honors the natural way a horse’s body and mind return to balance.

This is not a judgment. It is an invitation to align our practices with what we now know about neuroscience, behavior, attachment, and equine wellbeing.

The Herd as a Regulatory System for the Developing and Healing Horse

Horses are deeply relational mammals whose nervous systems evolved for living in synchrony. For horses still forming their understanding of the world, and for horses recovering from experiences that challenged their sense of safety, the herd becomes a biological stabilizer.

Research on equine social buffering (Schmidt et al., 2010; Keeling et al., 2009) shows that horses co-regulate heart rhythms, respiratory patterns, and emotional states when near a familiar companion. This shared regulation:

• Lowers cortisol levels

• Increases the parasympathetic response

• Promotes curiosity rather than vigilance

• Keeps the brain in a learning-focused state

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For a young horse, this is how they develop emotional flexibility and confidence.For a healing horse, this is how they repair disrupted patterns of stress and settle into safety again.

When either group is removed from their herd for training, the nervous system interprets the separation as a stressor. This leads to heightened arousal, decreased focus, and a reduced ability to retain new information. The horse is not resisting the lesson; their body is simply prioritizing survival.

Learning requires stability, not isolation.

What Classical Traditions Have Always Understood

Long before heart-rate monitors and neuroscience, master horsemen noticed the same truth. The Spanish Riding School of Vienna, one of the most respected classical institutions in the world, has followed a consistent practice for centuries:

Horses who are learning new skills or developing trust are never trained alone.

Young Lipizzaners spend years in large social groups at the Piber Stud, gaining emotional resilience, bodily awareness, and the ability to read subtle cues.

When training begins, they work in sight or presence of a calm companion.

Sensitive horses are paired with older, grounded horses who demonstrate steadiness through their own physiology. Classical trainers understood what science now confirms:A regulated horse teaches the next horse how to regulate.

This is not sentimental tradition. It is the foundation of reliable, ethical, and harmonious training.

The Role of Secure Attachment in Learning and Healing

Attachment theory is often discussed in human psychology, but the underlying biology exists in all mammals. Secure attachment forms through predictable connection, consistent signals, and the felt sense of safety in relationship.

Studies by Sankey et al. (2010, 2012) demonstrate that horses form meaningful attachments both to other horses and to humans. But attachment to humans does not replace their need for herd-based attachment; it complements it.

For horses in their early learning years:

• Attachment provides confidence

• Confidence fuels curiosity

• Curiosity supports learning

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For horses in a healing season:

• Attachment provides stability

• Stability reduces defensive patterns

• Reduced defensiveness opens the door to connection

Training a horse alone disrupts attachment. Training with herd support reinforces it. A securely attached horse enters the session with an open nervous system. An insecure or unsettled horse enters with protection, worry, or caution. One leads to partnership. The other leads to patterns we later interpret as “behavior issues,” when in truth they are simply emotional strategies.

Why Equine Assisted Learning Should Not Rely on One Isolated Horse

This principle becomes especially important in equine-assisted therapy or learning environments.

A single horse standing alone with a human who is processing emotion is being asked to co-regulate without support. Research on emotional contagion in horses (Dalla Costa, 2014) shows that horses mirror human stress quickly and deeply. Without the herd to help buffer and disperse this activation, the horse absorbs it into their own system.

For a horse in a formative season, this can overwhelm their undeveloped capacity for emotional self-regulation. For a horse in a healing season, this can inadvertently recreate experiences of instability or overwhelm.

Neither outcome supports the wellbeing of the horse.Neither outcome supports the integrity of the work.

When horses have herd access before, during, or after sessions, their bodies can release what they have absorbed. Their nervous systems have a place to recover. And their sense of relational safety remains intact. Healing is contagious. But so is dysregulation.We must choose which one the horse is surrounded by.

Learning and Recovery Are Social Processes

Research in social learning (Hausberger et al., 2004) shows that horses learn more effectively when observing others. They copy calmness the same way they copy movement. A companion’s presence signals safety in a way no human cue can replicate.

When another horse supports a horse who is learning or healing:

• They soften more quickly

• They remain curious longer

• Their tension decreases

• Their memory retention improves

• Their trust in the human grows naturally

The herd teaches the body that it is safe to stay open → Safety creates confidence → Confidence creates willingness → Willingness creates connection.

This is the foundation of true partnership.

A More Aligned, Ethical Way Forward

When we understand how a horse’s nervous system develops and heals, the path becomes clear. Horses who are still forming their emotional foundation and those who are restoring it benefit most from learning in connection, NOT in isolation.

This is not a criticism of how anyone has trained. It is simply a reflection of what we know now, and what our horses have always known in their bones.

Connection is their native language. The herd is their nervous system’s home base. And training becomes a transformational experience when we honor both.

If we want:

• Confident horses

• Emotionally flexible horses

• Horses who trust us

• Horses who heal fully

• Horses who step into their brilliance

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Then we must give them the one thing their biology consistently asks for:

A sense of belonging while they learn.

From that place, everything becomes possible.

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Supporting Research

Schmidt, A., Möstl, E., Wehnert, C., Aurich, J., Müller, J., & Aurich, C. (2010).Cortisol release and heart rate variability in horses during different kinds of exercise. Journal of Equine Veterinary Science, 30(9), 452–458.Demonstrates that horses experience measurable stress reduction when supported by familiar herd members, highlighting the importance of social buffering.

Keeling, L. J., Jonare, L., & Lanneborn, L. (2009).Investigating horse–human interactions: The effect of a nervous human. Veterinary Journal, 181(1), 70–71.Shows that horses synchronize their stress responses with humans, reinforcing the need for emotional stability and co regulated environments.

McDonnell, S. M. (2003).The Equid Ethogram: A practical field guide to horse behavior. Lexington, KY: Eclipse Press.Provides foundational documentation of natural herd behavior, illustrating how horses rely on social structures to maintain emotional regulation.

Sankey, C., Richard-Yris, M. A., Henry, S., Fureix, C., Nassur, F., & Hausberger, M. (2010).Reinforcement as a mediator of the human–horse relationship: Training with positive reinforcement improves learning and human–horse interactions. Applied Animal Behaviour Science, 123(1–2), 52–59.Finds that horses learn best when training occurs in conditions that support secure attachment and emotional safety.

Sankey, C., Richard-Yris, M. A., Henry, S., Fureix, C., & Hausberger, M. (2012).Do horses have a concept of person? Recognition of handlers by skill level. Animal Cognition, 13(1), 299–306.Shows that horses build recognition and trust through consistent relational experiences, strengthening both bonding and learning.

Dalla Costa, E., Minero, M., Lebelt, D., Stucke, D., Canali, E., & Leach, M. C. (2014).Remote heart rate assessment validation: A new tool for measuring emotional states in horses. Veterinary Behaviour, 9(1), 22–27.Provides evidence that horses reflect human emotional activation through physiological shifts, supporting the concept of emotional contagion.

Hausberger, M., & McDonnell, S. M. (2013).Behavioral and physiological responses of horses in training: The importance of environmental and social factors. Journal of Veterinary Behavior, 8(6), 433–441.Demonstrates that environmental context and social presence significantly influence equine stress levels, behavior, and learning outcomes.

Spanish Riding School of Vienna / Piber Stud Documentation.Guidelines on herd-based raising and early training of Lipizzaner stallions.Highlights classical methods showing that horses in their foundational or sensitive seasons develop greater emotional stability and training responsiveness when never trained in isolation.